Pointers To My 16 – 20 Year Old Self

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We’re reaching the end of 2016 (THANK GOD, AM I RIGHT?!) and whilst I’ve thought about where I want to be and goals I hope to reach in 2017 the saying ‘to get where you’re going, you’ve got to know where you’ve been’ comes to mind. So I have some goals that are generic and some that are specialised for me, but I wanted to take this time for reflection, and speak to my younger self; especially as I often cling to the ‘what if’s’ in life. It’s time to close that book to start a better one.

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Here goes.

I couldn’t write a full blown letter to you (because I’m too lazy, we both know that) and I couldn’t narrow it down to one year of my life because you have made me ‘facepalm’ several times. several. Here’s some pointer’s though to stop the 16 to 20 year old me from being so stressed out and what I would do again given the chance. From the future *twilight sounds*

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You’re in such a unique time changing position. Recognise that and enjoy that, including the awkward times and missteps.

Stop eating lunch out all the time! Not everyday canteen, somedays lunchbox. save your coin. If you still remember the taste of KFC it’s because you’ve eaten it too much. There were times when a Happy Meal was a luxury.

Learn to drive. Even though you still don’t need a car right now the skill will be invaluable and you will actually have time to do it.

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Apply to more drama schools. It doesn’t matter if you don’t get in just apply anyway, it’s quite fun and a learning curve.

Believe in yourself. No other *poo emoji* is going to. Support from others is so important but you have to have the self-belief to make the move and keep you going.

Buy full albums and listen to them and relish in them. I’ve only just realised the musicianship and story that goes into an album and it will inspire and empower you.

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Read more.

Hug more.

Say yes more.

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But speak up more. Standing your ground and sticking to your guts is never a bad thing and in the future you’ll be glad you did.

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Can you, like, stop relaxing your hair now?

Basically, take time and enjoy your current abundance of it as it may seem like you don’t have any but it really starts to run away from you as you get older.

Take risks: sometimes you can be too stable headed- if there’s such a thing- and this period of life will be the best time to fall and get back up.

You CAN change as a person, like it IS allowed. Often times it’s a reflection of growth and learning, not everyone can ‘stay the same’ and as well as accepting your own changes be accepting of others.

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Speaking of learning: learn a language. Even if you don’t really use it, get to a basic conversational level. Though you’ve done well to remember that dutch rhyme and a few Macedonian words.

Look After Yourself. Look after others, too. And speak to people more.

Don’t listen or pay attention to someone else’s story. You cannot walk the same path.

Stick to blogging now, not revisiting it later. trololol.

In fact, stick to everything you want to give up, even for just a month more.

Don’t harbour. Don’t hoard.

And also, don’t worry- because many of the things you thought you wanted weren’t right for you anyway.

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My mum (absolute babe) often reminds me of how far I’ve come when I’m feeling low, and you really should be proud of yourself you’ve done so many great things and have the chance to do much more, as I believe you will.

With that done, what would you tell your former self? Maybe it’s from 6 months ago or 6 years but reflection is what grows us, and gives us the tools to move forward.

My past is what has given me my goals for 2017, and whether I meet them or mess up we’re going for it.

I hope you enjoyed this post and have a Happy New Year! x


  1. Grace
    December 30, 2016 / 7:51 pm

    Excellent essay.

  2. Kinkygoddess
    January 1, 2017 / 7:04 pm

    That was absolutely refreshing to read and allow myself to do some reflection of my own.

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