sometimes you have to stay unhappy.
I don’t mean forever of course, what i do mean is in the moment of unhappiness and stress we should acknowledge and accept that fact.
your unhappiness doesn’t need fixing. Instead of saying ‘I’m mad’ or ‘I’m disappointed that xyz hasn’t happened’ and accepting that and being that for a moment we tend to dissolve into this pit of despair and drag up allllllllllllll the things that have made us unhappy in our lives and allllllllllll the reasons we could be and will be happy when we fix ourselves like a certain image, outlook, clothes and style, blah blah but what if you just say ‘I’m ….. right now. And that’s okay.’
Because it is OK. For example ‘I am pissed I haven’t got this’ and ‘I’m stressed I haven’t got that’ doesn’t turn into “….because so and so didn’t give me this opportunity and if I had of done this, that and the rest of it I would be driving a Mercedes right now and so tomorrow i’m going on that diet that will make my boss promote me.” That isn’t happiness. I’m coming to learn its an internal thing, not a possession to be lost and found. It’s a mood you feel alongside any other but often we stress ourselves trying to get into it. You’ll find yourself a lot ‘happier’ when you say i’m sad, i might cry for a bit or yell or whatever it is i do and then go to sleep and let go of the restraints i put on myself and let tomorrow come to me. A new day.
the thing you are feeling stressed/anxious/mad about is NOT the first thing you think of when you wake up. When you fully wake up and open you eyes subconsciously your body and mind says ‘i’m alive’ then it says ‘where am i?’ then your mind tells you what it is you need to do right now (go to work, or back to sleep, HA!) but it doesn’t care about your emotions which i suppose shows you the stress isn’t that important.
whatever it is, it isn’t that important.
So when you’re mad. Be MAD. and when you want to cry, CRY. be in that feeling for a moment. Just be, acknowledge and accept. And i assure you, the bad feeling won’t be there for long.